The abuser love to use irony as a weapon or one excuse to abuse and provoke. If you feel offended about a joke, don't laugh, just make a poker face and ask to stop.
I'm saying that cos it's really easy for people pleaser to smile and laugh all time, trying make no confrontation.
Irony is great, but I learn to do it to myself alone about my own situation and not as a submissive gesture, I like to re-frame the situation and use irony, this is good.
But I know my sense of humor and fake smiles, for a long time, was just to agreed about what my abusive father was saying about me and make no confrontation.
For a kid, it's really hard to give back a punch of "irony"(provocation), If you are that smart with words you can give the taste of his own poison. I notice man's in general love to play provocation jokes, I do with my friend's, but I set the limits, I set the lines, we have true fun. I notice from my females friends they tend to not smile back for man.
There is a whole social language, body language going on behind a smile, jokes and provocations.
How are your experiences with it ? I would love to discuss so when can have a wealth sense of humor like Richard have !
I was inspired to write this after watching he saying about the importance of humor and re-frame on the last youtube video.