I would like to talk about this topic in more detail since I feel like I have something to add to the conversation considering I got the kind of naturally deconstructivist type; an outsider yet an insider, he has much of the similar qualities of my self, although others would tell me he is "insensitive", since I haven't learned much about "insensitivity" and identifying it until recently BECAUSE when you grow up in that kind of environment where women are not, (and me being the cry baby) I can tell you, in some cases, women can be absolutely brutal to each other. The most violence I have ever experienced in my life has been at the hands of other women.
The most emotional violence I have experienced has been at the hands of men, but not out of "insensitivity" but deliberate emotional manipulation.
I live on the edge of things, I was the girl who had both male and female friends. Many male friends because the areas in life I enjoy tend to be semi "male dominated" such as playing in a band as well as the type of music and the instruments I played and even now, I am in a generally "male dominated" format: "machinima" which is generally a genre of animation dominated by males between the ages of 15-50.
What is it that makes those of us who are more "technical" minded so, "different"? I have no clue, but I know for one thing, I am specific to my type.. I'm not sure about the "Good Will Hunting" reference but I saw "Blade Runner" when I was 14;
(I also really enjoyed a recent Amine series which was very cool about criminalizing differences and psychological attitude in a "Utopian society", of course it shows you the "Utopia" but then shows you the dark underside and cost to the individual, and was a brilliant illustration of why "Anarchism" is the an answer...and why you need it)
(the series I mention is called Psycho-Pass) (I had a link to more information but your format does not allow for a link for 7 days)
Just off the top of my head. Much work to do today.. just wanted to share my few ideas. Just enjoyed the perspective of the talk since I also know that I too have seen that passive aggressive side of men who pretend to be "nice" but really hold violent grudges against women... and harbour serious destructive feelings towards women they believe they "deserve".