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    Should I warn or not my friends ?


    Intoxicated Diana

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    Join date : 2017-03-16

    Should I warn or not my friends ?

    Post by Intoxicated Diana on Thu Mar 16, 2017 1:55 pm

    Hello strangers,

    Is the second time in the last 5 years, since I live abroad, when this shit happens to me. I'm definitely a people pleaser due to my childhood trauma and I suspect myself to have also this C-PSTD Syndrome (just have to read more about it), so I'm the fucking magnet of all psychopaths. I had the 'privilege' to meet this piece of shit through my small group of friends/acquaintances. He 'infected' my whole group and he continues playing the game with all the them. I'm the only one in the group who, after a sort of discarding, noticed that something's smelling bad. I'm in no contact since around 1 month, but I continue to hear stories from my friends - how nice the shit is, to which event are they going together, to which wedding I'm invited and surprise..the shit also! etc.

    How should I proceed?
    A side of me wants to warn them to open the eyes, another side tells me - you will be exposed if you say something. I feel very frustrated, I blame myself that I wasn't able to recognise the pattern earlier - even if it wasn't for the first time dealing with shit and even if I felt that something was strange, I was like ignoring the reality, hypnotized. I feel also very tired of the whole charade.. and I would appreciate any advice.

    Thanks a lot!


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    Re: Should I warn or not my friends ?

    Post by daisy4 on Sat Apr 29, 2017 5:03 pm

    don't beat yourself up about not knowing what your weren't taught. its a process, albeit a rather painful one that many seem to be going through in learning how to look after ourselves from dysfunctional people.

    Its a tough one eh? a part wants to inform them, yet another says 'head for the hills!'.  personally i bow out, as I've never found people to be too receptive to this sort of info. they rather shoot the messenger and say we are bitter etc.  thing is...these circles disperse anyway as a result of the npds manipulations.  maybe that would be the point to reach out to others?  revenge is a waste of your energy.  awareness will serve you better Wink  maybe even refocus on a different area of your life?  good distractions can work wonders to get some space from painful experiences.

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