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    My path to cure and some tips

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    Neowuf

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    Join date : 2015-05-23

    My path to cure and some tips

    Post by Neowuf on Sun Jan 15, 2017 1:21 pm

    Ever since I discovered the narcissistic personality, my life as changed.
    Acceptance is the first step and the hardest, I want to share some thoughts of my progress and the best things I did to cut away most of the narcissistic problem in my life !

    I'm a optimistic guy and I believed everyone can change. To make the problem goes away I had thoughts like:

    " Everyone can change, he (the narc) can too."
    " The problem is in my mind, I need to re frame and the pain will go away "
    " Violence only generates violence. "
    " I will not become like him, I'm a good peaceful guy "
    " I will PROVE him I'm worth and special. "

    I had to challenge some core believes I had, if you don't do that, people will take advantage of it and abuse you.
    I still believe on those, but there are other situations.

    " Everyone can change, but not the abuser in my life time. "
    " He don't want to change, and I'm not the right person to change this abuser. "
    " My problem can be external, and I should do actions on other to make go away. "
    " Violence for self defense is justifiable "
    " I know exactly How I am, What I want, and I'm unique "
    " I have no need to prove or justify anyone anything, except myself. "

    If you dig even deeper, I wanted the world to fit my paradigms, and the abuser was always taking advantage of that:
    - My natural fear of conflict, for been a pacifist.
    - My "hero syndrome" trying to save and change everyone for better.
    - My blindness to not want to see the evil in other, only the better side.
    - My constant desire for acceptance of other peoples, to define myself.

    I still have a long way to go, but I can say I'm practically cured!
    Hope I'm vaccinated too from this awful diseases the narcs give us.
    The scars will never go away.
    What believes you have and never questioned ? What changed in your mind to fight back ?
    Can you find more holes in my new life paradigms ? =D
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    trueself1

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    Join date : 2015-06-24

    Re: My path to cure and some tips

    Post by trueself1 on Mon Jan 16, 2017 7:32 pm

    Awesome! Smile

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