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    I can only work hard when I'm scared

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    Justin Allingham

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    Join date : 2016-08-12

    I can only work hard when I'm scared

    Post by Justin Allingham on Fri Aug 12, 2016 11:33 am

    A large part of my reason for doing things as a kid was fear of my father and in a different way fear of my mother. Now as an adult I have for many years found that unless the situation is dire and I have some massive external pressure operating upon me my focus intensity and effort are seriously lacking. I struggle to clearly articulate a clear plan, manage competing priorities and work with consistent intensity and enthusiasm. I feel like I'm swimming in honey. I am a co dependent people pleaser with porous ego boundaries. My father was weak with my mother and a bully,with me. They were controlling, judgemental, physically and emotionally abusive. How can I learn to be hardworking, internally motivated and focussed. How can I regain my semangat? Thank you Richard for everything you've done for me. You have changed my life.

    Potential63

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    Join date : 2016-08-12

    Re: I can only work hard when I'm scared

    Post by Potential63 on Sun Aug 14, 2016 10:16 pm

    Focus on only one goal at a time. Break it down into manageable pieces. When you decide on that goal, do your best to be consistent with it for two weeks. It takes that long to change a behavior.

    Whatever you are passionate about, that is a great focus point for motivation.
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    parallax

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    Join date : 2016-04-01
    Location : Southeastern USA

    Re: I can only work hard when I'm scared

    Post by parallax on Thu Sep 15, 2016 4:45 pm

    Potential63 wrote:Focus on only one goal at a time.  Break it down into manageable pieces. When you decide on that goal, do your best to be consistent with it for two weeks.  It takes that long to change a behavior.

    Whatever you are passionate about, that is a great focus point for motivation.

    What a great point! This has been a most helpful reminder.

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