I regularly find that clingy people latch on to me and can become a little over the top with their attachment and I don't know what I'm doing to give them the impression I'm interested.
I recently had a problem where one of my ex university professors who I began occasionally chatting with, started messaging me EVERY NIGHT for hours on end and asking what time I'd be available the next day as though it was an expected daily event. The guy was married and even if I liked him and enjoyed our conversations, I had other things to do and his undying eagerness began to feel super weird. I had to just ignore him until he eventually backed off, but it was really awkward.
I now have a girl who i vaguely know breaking my balls in a similar way. I know she has suffered with depression in the past and could use a friend, and I feel bad saying this but *I* don't want to be that friend.
This girl seems to have furiously latched on to me in a similar way to ex-prof and it's getting a little single white female-ish. She messages me excessively and I get the impression she's trying to mimic my way to talk. I'll write something on my FB wall and the next day she has tagged me in numerous memes and articles relating to what I posted. It's to the point where I don't think that it's possible she just co-incidentally stumbles upon these things, but that she's actively looking for them :s. I've had to block her on messenger. I don't even respond to her and I've even tried subtly pushing her away by saying I'm busy, but instead of getting the hint, she's now just messaging me on my phone. I don't want to hurt her feelings, but I feel like there is no escape!
I realise this sounds incredibly narcissistic of me in itself: Look how, like...wonderful I am; people become obsessed with me! But I don't think it's because I'm this wonderful person, but that I'm obviously, unknowingly somehow giving off some kind of signal that attracts these sorts and I don't know how to turn it off!
Has anyone experienced something similar? How do you nicely but firmly tell someone 'nice' who can't take a hint to back off?