One of my ex-Narcs who is both a covert narc and anti-social, and has multiple personality disorder has threatened to murder me (because I said no to being his live-in-slave) and is harassing me. I have made police reports on all of this, but I'm really scared because I am not sure if it is safer to just ignore him or if it is safer to seek legal protection? Perhaps I won't report any future contact from him?
My fear is that a police report, or a court case would cause him narcissistic injury. However, if I don't set a strong boundary and if I don't ask for police assistance I can't get a protected home address, and I may be less fun to go after if he knows that the police will get involved every time.
Any ideas around this? I guess one other way to put my question is if it's safer to lie low and take the threats and do the grey rock method of just ignoring him, or to take action? Is there any statistics on this kind of thing? Like what course of action is the statistically safer?
Partly this is out of my own control now because I've already made the police reports so if they consider his actions to be illegal they will press charges no matter what I say.
How can I best protect myself? Any ideas or strategies are much welcomed!