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    ScouseBitch

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    Join date : 2016-04-12

    Narcissist Abuse - To hide or share?

    Post by ScouseBitch on Tue Apr 12, 2016 8:38 pm

    Dear All,

    I have suffered all my life from narcissistic abuse by my mother and enabling father. I am the scapegoat of the family and they have ostracised me these past few years. I feel so alone and painfully rejected. There are only a few people I trust and have discussed this with and my question is - do I confidently tell people I no longer have contact with my family? I feel a sense of shame and embarrassment that I have a dysfunctional family, but also have this bizarre sense of respect and loyalty to them. I feel like I am starting to be more of my authentic self, I do not want to live a lie, so why am I continuing their legacy of fear and manipulation? Should we hide our parents narcissistics behaviour or expose them to the real world? Any advice much appreciated.

    HadEnough

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    Join date : 2016-05-21

    Re: Narcissist Abuse - To hide or share?

    Post by HadEnough on Mon May 23, 2016 5:38 pm

    I'm sorry this happened to you.
    I have a similar story. I have limited contact with my dad. My mom died when I was 12. They are (were) both alcoholics. My dad has narcissistic traits.

    Recently a coworker asked about my dad and what I was doing for fathers day for him. I told her probably nothing. She asked why. I BRIEFLY explained. She replied with " You only have one dad, you should make up with him!"

    This through me into an emotional flashback. I wanted to scream!

    But I did not.

    I had to realize that people who have not lived through what we have are just not going to get it.

    If I were you I would not tell people that you are no longer in contact. Maybe something like "We don't get together much."

    I'm still fumbling around with this myself, but I have found this response effective enough. Maybe once I get stronger I more accurate response could be told.

    Best wishes.

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